Man gets abused by ex-girlfriend; HE ends up in jail

From The Blaze…

Hell hath no fury like a woman spurned.

Justin Lindsey has been jailed in Beaver County, Pennsylvania, for the past week, KDKA-TV reported, facing charges of harassment and assault.

But according to Lindsey’s family, he’s the one who got assaulted — and they’ve got video to back up their claims.

The incident occurred last week when Lindsey’s ex-girlfriend — and mother of his child — Rhameicka Clark showed up at his house and found Lindsey on the porch with their daughter and another woman, KDKA reported.

Clark told the news station that Lindsey had previously agreed not to bring other women around their daughter.

Lindsey recorded video of their encounter on his cell phone, capturing Clark’s rage…and the moment she picked up a metal pole and began beating him with it.

“The mother drove up, seen the other woman, and she just snapped out,” Lindsey’s mother told KDKA.

After the beating, Clark reported the incident to authorities, but according to Lindsey’s mother, she made it seem like Lindsey had been the aggressor, leading a Pennsylvania magistrate to call for Lindsey’s arrest.

Worse, Aliquippa police apparently refused to look at the video evidence that showed Clark attacking Lindsey.

“Me and his dad went with him to turn himself in to the police,” Lindsey’s mother said. “They refused to look at the video, refused to hear his side.”

She added that her son is in danger of losing his job over the incident.

 

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MSNBC wants to hear from you about campus sexual assault (should be interesting)

Click HERE to fill out MSNBC’s form asking for your perspective on campus sexual assault.

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Female teacher (and mother) sentenced to THREE DAYS for having sex with special needs students

From Channel 10 in Lancaster, Ohio.

A Lancaster mother is headed to jail after pleading guilty in court to two counts of endangering children

30-year old Jessica Hachat – a licensed teacher – was working a summer lunch program when detectives say she had sex with the boys, who are special needs children.

It was an emotional day in court on Friday as Hatchet made a tearful apology for having sex with two special needs boys, while a parent of the victims called Hatchet a sorry excuse for a mother, a woman and a human being.

“I’ve made a terrible mistake.  (It was) a decision that does not align whatsoever with my character.  I’m very sorry,” Hachat said in court on Friday.

Her apology rang hollow with a mom – who 10TV is not identifying – whose son had sex with Hatchet inside their home.  “A predator is person who ruthlessly exploits others and I believe that label undoubtedly describes Jessica Hachat.”

She sat quietly, her eyes welling with tears as she listened to the tongue-lashing from the furious mother.  “You are an animal that belongs in a cage and should never be allowed to instill morals, values or beliefs into another person,” said the mother.

The victim’s mother also explained how her special needs child became a victim of an older woman’s desire for sex.  “It is absolutely heartbreaking that you took advantage of his innocence and his condition,” she vented in court.

Detectives say Hachat met one of her victims at the West Afterschool Summer Lunch Program in Lancaster.  That special needs 17-year old boy introduced another 17-year-old – who is also special needs – to Hatchet.

While the second 17-year-old wasn’t in court, his father read his impact statement.  “If I didn’t do what I did, my family wouldn’t be in this situation and we would all be happy,” he said.

The Fairfield County prosecutor admits this would have been a difficult case to try before a jury because both victims admitted to having consensual sex with Hatchet.

She could have served 180 days on both counts, but instead will serve just three days in a Lancaster jail.

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Girls need dads, too

Natasha Devon writes in The Telegraph about a father’s indispensability.

This month, Ronald McDonald House Charities, which provides accommodation for families of children who have to remain in hospital long-term, launched a new television advert. In it, a little girl is asked to describe what it means to know that her dad is nearby and responds, “it’s just his voice”.

The advert struck me as more than a little bit brilliant. At last, after years of men being portrayed as incompetent and disposable by marketers, here was a slice of modern culture which acknowledged the emotional and psychological importance of male parents. Not only that, it managed to convey the elusive, almost inexplicable comfort of your dad’s physical presence in less than 30 seconds. Bravo, Ronald, bravo.

By contrast, this summer a group of four feminist authors (including Caitlin Moran) released a book of short essays entitled “Are Men Obsolete?”. The concept is nothing new – what with women gaining independent economic power along with the simultaneous invention of Rampant Rabbits and automated spider catchers, men have increasingly been derided and labelled as disposable. However humorously done, the sentiment has never sat comfortably with me, because it reduces the value of men merely to what they are able to provide physically – money, DIY services, sex – without any acknowledgment of what they give us emotionally.

Whether consciously or not, we hardly ever incorporate emotional support into our notion of what it is to be a man, husband, brother or father. Traditionally, anything related to feelings has been painted as the remit of women.

My own experiences have taught me that a man’s worth is more than the sum of his earning capacity coupled with his handiness with a power drill. I was one year old when my own biological father unceremoniously walked out on his three year marriage to my 22-year-old mother. I was too young to remember the incident or anything about him.

As I grew up, my mother and my extended family competently ensured that all of my physical and a hefty chunk of my emotional needs were catered for. At one stage, my Mum held down five jobs in order to support us. When I think back to my earliest memories of her, she was under the bonnet of our clapped-out old yellow car, fixing something whilst wearing denim hot pants. To this day, I’ve never met anyone who balances the ability to be so feminine yet so physically capable. I learned from her not only how to apply make-up and bake fairy cakes, but how to change a plug and use a chainsaw.

Although I didn’t attribute it to the absence of my father, I did however experience a constant sensation of emptiness I couldn’t properly articulate. Sometimes, as I child, I used to imagine my insides had been scooped out, leaving me hollow shell. It was an image that seemed to fit with how I was feeling.

I remember friends at school talking about advice their dads had given them and imagining it would somehow be fundamentally different from any words of wisdom you could get from your mum – not better necessarily – but just valuable in a different way. Looking back, although there was nothing I didn’t feel comfortable talking to my mother about, sometimes I simply yearned for a male perspective that would open my world view to heretofore unexplored possibilities.

When I began dating, I had an unsurprising inherent distrust of men, whilst paradoxically yearning for their attention and approval. I often dated people much older than me and prone to possessive and controlling behaviour in a classic ‘Daddy complex’ type way.

Yet when people asked me for my perspective on not knowing my father, I could only muster a shrug. I felt, to be brutally honest, completely indifferent.  I was labouring under the misapprehension that you could not miss what you had never had and besides, I had a brilliant mum, for which I considered myself extremely lucky.

It was only seven years ago, when my mum met the man to whom she is now married, that I conclusively understood what dads bring to the table (and it has nothing to do with plug wiring or spider catching). Even now, at the age of 33, just knowing my step-dad is there brings a sense of security and wellbeing that isn’t measurable but is immeasurably valuable. It’s no coincidence that it is during those seven years that I have found the confidence to start my own business and forge ahead with my career (as well as meeting the love of my own life, who is a kind and decent man).

Of course, I can comprehend better than most that sometimes one parent families are an unavoidable reality of life and that there are many wonderful single mothers (and indeed fathers) working their fingers to the bone to support their offspring in difficult circumstances. Yet, in our culture where men are so often made to feel as though they exist on the periphery of families (and, indeed, society) and that their presence is something which can be taken or left, I think it’s necessary to take a moment to reflect on how devastating their absence would be.

Are men obsolete? Absolutely not. There is no modern or technological invention on Earth that is a substitute for the feeling you get when you hear your dad’s voice.

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Is alimony antifeminist?

Keli Goff writes in The Daily Beast about alimony in modern life.

At least one observer wonders whether $30 million-plus in payments helped kill Robin Williams. Is alimony hopelessly antiquated and un-feminist?

On Saturday, Henry Rollins finally responded to days of criticism and apologized for a column he wrote that appeared critical of Robin Williams’ suicide. Rollins became just the latest media figure to spark controversy for his thoughts on the Williams tragedy. Fox News anchor Shep Smith also apologized for using the word “coward” during his coverage of Williams, while Rush Limbaugh drew fire for managing to link the comedian’s death to (what else?) the political left.

But another media figure has weighed in with a controversial take on Williams’ suicide. She has blamed alimony. More specifically, she is using his death as a rallying cry for alimony reform and raising the question: Is alimony anti-feminist?

New York Daily News Columnist Linda Stasi’s opening line leaves little to the imagination. She asks point blank, “Did alimony kill Robin Williams?” She then goes on to write: “At least in part it sure did. Paying out over $30 million to ex-wives who were allowed to attach themselves to Williams’ bank account like comatose patients on feeding tubes would be enough to make Gandhi angry and depressed.”

As controversial as Stasi’s column may be, she is not alone in wondering whether Williams’ alimony and subsequent money woes ultimately played a role in his death.

In an interview, Steve Hitner, founder of Massachusetts Alimony Reform, raised the subject of Williams’ suicide as he spoke of the countless people, particularly men, who have had their lives ruined by unfair alimony laws. After alimony payments to his former wife ruined him financially, Hitner spent years advocating reform of Massachusetts’ alimony laws: “The way the law was at the time the receiving spouse need[ed] to be maintained in the lifestyle of the marriage.”

Hitner hit a rough patch financially and could no longer afford the payments, but he could not get the payments to his ex-wife modified. “So I felt the only way I could win was to change the law,” he says. “It took me eight years to do it. I started Massachusetts Alimony Reform.”

Massachusetts had among the most draconian alimony statutes in the country, which often resulted in lifetime alimony payments to the lesser-earning spouse, regardless of duration of the marriage or ability of the higher-earning spouse to pay. Ironically, according to Hitner, women were some of his staunchest allies in getting the Massachusetts law reformed.

These women were often second wives, who did not take kindly to the idea that a substantial portion of their new husband’s salary would be going to his former wife, particularly in instances in which the first wife had a new live-in partner, something the former law did not take into account. Today, New Jersey, Oregon, Vermont, Connecticut, North Carolina, West Virginia, and Florida all have lifetime alimony statutes. New Jersey’s Assembly, however, recently passed a reform law. It has not yet been signed into law by Governor Chris Christie.

In an age in which women serve in the cabinet and are now obtaining college degrees at higher rates than men, the idea that women should be awarded a post-divorce allowance from a spouse strikes many as outdated.

The concept of alimony, also referred to as “maintenance” in some countries, dates back thousands of years and was first referenced in texts in ancient Babylon. Though gender roles and traditional marriage definitions have evolved greatly since then, the traditional meaning of alimony has remained largely the same. A marriage ends and one party pays the less financially solvent party some sort of means of support. In ancient times when it was not feasible for women to obtain meaningful work or to remarry easily due to cultural norms, alimony served as an important form of security.

But today, in an age in which women serve in the cabinet and are now obtaining college degrees at higher rates than men, the idea that women (who receive alimony at much higher rates than men) should be awarded a post-divorce allowance from a spouse strikes many as outdated and an embarrassment to feminist principles.

In her column Stasi wrote…”the truth is alimony (which is different from child support and fair distribution of assets acquired during the marriage) doesn’t mean the non-working spouse is entitled to live as high as the Kardashians. It’s that concept that is fundamentally anti-feminist.”

Joan Entmacher of the National Women’s Law Center disagreed. She stressed the rarity of lifetime alimony and said that she believes that in a number of instances alimony remains a necessity. “The reality is that both within a marriage and the workplace women have still not achieved equality,” she said in a phone interview. “It’s still more likely that in a marriage [it’s] the woman who makes some career sacrifices to raise children and provide a home. It is also the case that her work opportunities are diminished particularly if she’s had children, and the statistics bear this out.”

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“Most males would never do anything to harm a young woman.”—William Pollack, Harvard Medical School psychologist

John Lauerman and Jennifer Surane write about the college hookup culture in Bloomberg.

As former social chair of the Sigma Chi fraternity at Harvard University, Malik Gill wants to appear especially welcoming to girls who come to the house for parties.

Yet, Gill, who starts his junior year in a few weeks, says he won’t be offering a female classmate a beer.

“I don’t want to look like a predator,” the 20-year-old economics major said. “It’s a little bit of a blurred line.”

Sex and relationships are always tricky terrain for college students. Those arriving this year are finding schools awash in complaints and headlines about sexual assault and responding with programs aimed at changing campus culture that has been blamed for glorifying dorm-bed conquests, excusing rape and providing a safe haven for assailants. For many young men, it’s an added dimension in a campus scene that already appears daunting, said William Pollack, a Harvard Medical School psychologist.

Pollack said a patient recently told him about making out with a girl at a party. Things were going fine, the student said, when suddenly a vision of his school’s disciplinary board flew into his head.

“‘I want to go to law school or medical school after this,’” Pollack said, recounting the student’s comments. “‘I said to her, it’s been nice seeing you.’”

Victims, especially women, have always had to battle taking the blame for being attacked, said Laura Dunn, founder of the SurvJustice sexual-assault advocacy group. Men have to accept responsibility for sexual aggressiveness when it harms others, she said.

“There are countries where women cover themselves from head to toe in clothing and don’t go anywhere without a male escort to avoid harassment,” she said. “That’s not our country.”

While about 99 percent of rapes are committed by men, according to U.S. government figures, few men are rapists. Data from David Lisak, a sociologist who consults to the military and universities on the issue, suggest that the vast majority of campus sexual assaults are the work of a small group — less than 5 percent — of college men. No one wants to be mistaken for one of these serial offenders.

“I don’t think it’s about me,” said Gill, the Harvard student. “I feel like I’m pretty good guy. But if I’m talking to a girl and want to gauge her interest, I’m more cautious than I used to be. I don’t want to cross the line.”

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Woman attacks man, gets off easy

News from the UK…

Glassing victim claims attacker spared jailed 'because she's a woman'
Yasmin Thomas attacked her victim on a night out in Bournemouth (Picture: Sally Adams/BNPS)

A man who was nearly left blind after he had a bottle smashed into his face has claimed his attacker only escaped jail because she is a woman.

Ronnie Lee, 24, was on a night out in Bournemouth when 21-year-old Yasmin Thomas, who has 17 previous convictions for assault, carried out her unprovoked and vicious attack.

Despite Mr Lee’s horrific injuries that required glass to be removed from his face and stitches on his eyelid, estate agent Ms Thomas was spared jail as the judge gave her a 12-month sentence, suspended for two years, and ordered her to attend anger management classes.

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Mr Lee in the ambulance after being assaulted by Ms Thomas (Picture: Ronnie Lee/BNPS)

Mr Lee said: ‘If it was the other way around and I did that to her, I would be going straight to jail.

‘What happens next time if she does something and it’s life threatening? She could end up killing someone.’

Mr Lee claims a nurse told him if the cut on his eyelid was a few millimetres lower he would have been blinded in one eye.

He said of Ms Thomas’ sentence: ‘I don’t think the justice system has provided a judgement that will set an example.’

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“But seriously, almost everyone is for equality between the sexes in America.”—Julie Borowski

Exactly. 

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