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Christina discusses the outlandishness of Jennifer Newsom’s “The Mask You Live In,” whose video we posted last week.
Here’s the actual documentary about masculinity in America, entitled “The Mask You Live In,” which was produced by feminists who believe they not only understand men but know what’s best for them. In reality, of course, all they want is a gender-neutral world where no one can determine a man from a woman.
Below is a fantastic parody of “The Mask You Live In.” Of course, there’s nothing funny about America’s attack on masculinity. But sometimes, to drive a point home, humor can be very effective.
Kirsten Dunst speaks the unspeakable in US Weekly.
Feminists are chanting “Off with her head!” after Marie Antoinette star Kirsten Dunst’s latest comments on gender roles were revealed in the May issue of Harper’s Bazaar UK. The 31-year-old cover girl has a more traditional view when it comes to relationships between men and women.
“I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued,” she told the magazine. “We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at home, nurturing, being the mother, cooking – it’s a valuable thing my mom created.”
The Midnight Special star, who has been dating actor Garrett Hedlund since the Sundance Film Festival in January 2012, argues that finding a manly man is necessary.
“And sometimes, you need your knight in shining armor,” continued Dunst. “I’m sorry. You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That’s how relationships work.”
Naturally, her comments have stirred up controversy on the Internet. Sites like Jezebel and Uproxx have bashed Dunst’s comments. “Kirsten Dunst is not paid to write gender theory, so it shouldn’t surprise anyone that she’s kind of dumb about it,” Jezebel writer Erin Gloria Ryan wrote.
We come in at 25:14, though the entire segment is worth watching. Great stuff!
Most sports are divided by an individual’s gender. For example, in basketball, we have the NBA and the WNBA, which divides the league so that men and women are separated and only compete against their own sex.
In certain cases, Americans will hear about a woman joining a male’s sports team, which usually grabs headlines. The divide is usually based on the notion that women and men have different physical capabilities. However, one group in New Jersey is breaking down these walls by creating a professional basketball league that is intermixed with both male and female players.
The league is called the MGBA, which stands for the Mixed Gender Basketball Association. Headed by James Scott and Tamia Colon, the league presents itself as an unbiased alternative for players who wish to compete against other genders in a robust game that keeps physical capabilities in check by the games rules and regulations. Created by Dr. John Howard, the current president of the MGBA, the game pits players against each other by separating the amount of men and women on the court per period.
James Scott spoke about these simple guidelines and why he believes the MGBA is a great alternative to all pre-conceived notions about basketball.
“They should have been playing a long time ago. The game starts like this. First quarter there is three men and two women, second quarter there is three women and two men, and it goes back and forth. It’s an awesome concept,” Scott explained.
The league says it had a successful trial run on February 18th at Essex County Community College.
“The game was an awesome game. We were at 80% capacity full and people were cheering for players they didn’t even know,” Scott said.
“I am one of the sponsors for the MGBA, and I wasn’t interested at all, but when I went to the game and I actually saw what I saw, it was absolutely amazing. I mean people were excited and were screaming and yelling,” potential owner and current sponsor Tamia Colon said.
The final score of the game was 95 to 93, which many consider to be a great professional basketball score.
MGBA usesthe motto, “Equal Pay for Equal Play” which solidifies the entire premise of what the league is trying to accomplish.
So what’s in store for the future of this league?
“When I saw what was going on, I said I wanted a piece of this. It’s like being at the beginning of Microsoft. This is going to be huge and I’m excited about it,” Colon said.
So far the league has 350 players, with its number continuing to increase.
A little humor from Dave Barry…
Let’s say a guy named Fred is attracted to a woman named Martha. He asks her out to a movie; she accepts; they have a pretty good time. A few nights later he asks her out to dinner, and again they enjoy themselves. They continue to see each other regularly, and after a while neither one of them is seeing anybody else.
And then, one evening when they’re driving home, a thought occurs to Martha, and, without really thinking, she says it aloud: “Do you realize that, as of tonight, we’ve been seeing each other for exactly six months?”
To Martha, it seems like a very loud silence. She thinks to herself: I wonder if it bothers him that I said that. Maybe he’s been feeling confined by our relationship; maybe he thinks I’m trying to push him into some kind of obligation that he doesn’t want, or isn’t sure of.
And Fred is thinking: Gosh. Six months.
And Martha is thinking: But, hey, I’m not so sure I want this kind of relationship either. Sometimes I wish I had a little more space, so I’d have time to think about whether I really want us to keep going the way we are, moving steadily towards, I mean, where are we going? Are we just going to keep seeing each other at this level of intimacy? Are we heading toward marriage? Toward children? Toward a lifetime together? Am I ready for that level of commitment? Do I really even know this person?
And Fred is thinking: …so that means it was…let’s see…February when we started going out, which was right after I had the car at the dealer’s, which means…lemme check the odometer…Whoa! I am way overdue for an oil change here.
And Martha is thinking: He’s upset. I can see it on his face. Maybe I’m reading this completely wrong. Maybe he wants more from our relationship, more intimacy, more commitment; maybe he has sensed – even before I sensed it – that I was feeling some reservations. Yes, I bet that’s it. That’s why he’s so reluctant to say anything about his own feelings. He’s afraid of being rejected.
And Fred is thinking: And I’m gonna have them look at the transmission again. I don’t care what those morons say, it’s still not shifting right. And they better not try to blame it on the cold weather this time. What cold weather? It’s 87 degrees out, and this thing is shifting like a garbage truck, and I paid those incompetent thieves $600.
And Martha is thinking: He’s angry. And I don’t blame him. I’d be angry, too. I feel so guilty, putting him through this, but I can’t help the way I feel. I’m just not sure.
And Fred is thinking: They’ll probably say it’s only a 90-day warranty…scumballs.
And Martha is thinking: Maybe I’m just too idealistic, waiting for a knight to come riding up on his white horse, when I’m sitting right next to a perfectly good person, a person I enjoy being with, a person I truly do care about, a person who seems to truly care about me. A person who is in pain because of my self-centered, schoolgirl romantic fantasy.
And Fred is thinking: Warranty? They want a warranty? I’ll give them a warranty. I’ll take their warranty and stick it right up their…
“Fred,” Martha says aloud.
“What?” says Fred, startled.
“Please don’t torture yourself like this,” she says, her eyes beginning to brim with tears. “Maybe I should never have…oh dear, I feel so…”(She breaks down, sobbing.)
“What?” says Fred.
“I’m such a fool,” Martha sobs. “I mean, I know there’s no knight. I really know that. It’s silly. There’s no knight, and there’s no horse.”
“There’s no horse?” says Fred.
“You think I’m a fool, don’t you?” Martha says.
“No!” says Fred, glad to finally know the correct answer.
“It’s just that…it’s that I…I need some time,” Martha says.
(There is a 15-second pause while Fred, thinking as fast as he can, tries to come up with a safe response. Finally he comes up with one that he thinks might work.)
“Yes,” he says. (Martha, deeply moved, touches his hand.)
“Oh, Fred, do you really feel that way?” she says.
“What way?” says Fred.
“That way about time,” says Martha.
“Oh,” says Fred. “Yes.” (Martha turns to face him and gazes deeply into his eyes, causing him to become very nervous about what she might say next, especially if it involves a horse. At last she speaks.)
“Thank you, Fred,” she says.
“Thank you,” says Fred.
Then he takes her home, and she lies on her bed, a conflicted, tortured soul, and weeps until dawn, whereas when Fred gets back to his place, he opens a bag of Doritos, turns on the TV, and immediately becomes deeply involved in a rerun of a college basketball game between two South Dakota junior colleges that he has never heard of. A tiny voice in the far recesses of his mind tells him that something major was going on back there in the car, but he is pretty sure there is no way he would ever understand what, and so he figures it’s better if he doesn’t think about it.
The next day Martha will call her closest friend, or perhaps two of them, and they will talk about this situation for six straight hours. In painstaking detail, they will analyze everything she said and everything he said, going over it time and time again, exploring every word, expression, and gesture for nuances of meaning, considering every possible ramification.
They will continue to discuss this subject, off and on, for weeks, maybe months, never reaching any definite conclusions, but never getting bored with it either.
Meanwhile, Fred, while playing racquetball one day with a mutual friend of his and Martha’s, will pause just before serving, frown, and say: “Norm, did Martha ever own a horse?”
And that’s the difference between men and women.
Gotta love the ladies at Slate. It’s hard for them to face facts.
Yesterday, the Heritage Foundation held a panel in honor of Women’s History Month called “Evaluating Feminism, Its Failures, and Its Future.” At the front of the room, a slate of female conservative journalists and activists evaluated feminism, and concluded that it has not been so good for women. Not good at all. “Millions of women have taken feminist advice,” conservative columnist Mona Charen lamented. “And it’s led to unparalleled misery.”
But feminism had also made men miserable, the panelists were quick to note. Men are now less likely to graduate from high school than women (though both boys and girls are graduating at significantly higher rates than they were just five years ago).
Women outnumber men on college campuses, Network for Enlightened Women president Karin Agness noted (though women have to reach a higher education level to match men’s earnings once they enter the workforce—female high school grads make about as much as male dropouts, for example). Male wages are falling, Charen said (but not so far that men are actually making less than women).
“Women and girls are not failing to thrive,” Charen concluded. “We have a problem with men and boys. Men’s participation rates in the workforce are declining alarmingly.” They’re even “seeing declining percentages of supervisory and administrative posts.”
It’s easy to pick out a few data points that point to female supremacy at the expense of male power. At this woman-themed Heritage Foundation panel, for example, men constituted an underrepresented demographic—young male interns were confined to the audience while successful women held court at the front of the room.
During the Q-and-A period, one Heritage intern asked the panelists how to deal with the fact that debates about women’s issues on his campus were dominated by female students. “How can we talk to women without being discounted right off the bat?” he asked. Whenever he tries, he’s told, “You’re not a woman, so obviously, your opinion doesn’t matter.” Agness advised him to “forward columns from female conservative columnists” to doubting women to nudge them toward the right.
What the women on the panel are describing as a decline in male power is, in many cases, true, but it’s not all feminism’s fault—we can shift some of the blame to drops in union membership and the decline of American manufacturing. But in some instances, taking power away from men is a part of the feminist agenda.
Men will necessarily see “declining percentages” of supervisory roles at work as women climb the ladder. If we ever do reach gender parity in powerful roles in the workplace, 50-50 will represent a serious compromise of men’s representation at the upper rungs. You may have also noted that male representation in Congress has been falling slowly yet steadily since 1917, or that the power of men to rape their wives has declined markedly since the 1970s.
These are positive developments for society, whether or not they compel women to report being “happier” than previous generations did. After all, men didn’t report to be very happy before feminism interfered. As The Federalistsenior editor Mollie Hemingway noted, “Women used to report far higher happiness levels than men, but we’re on the same level now.” Hemingway calls that “a problem,” but I see it as something else: equality.